How You Rebuild Your Confidence When You Have Suffered A Painful Rejection



Posted: Saturday, June 13, 2009

by Susan Lancaster
Lovestruck

When any relationship finishes it causes pain for the partner who didn't want it to end, as no matter what you tell the next person, a mutual split is very rare. Sometimes a relationship ending can really damage your confidence and leave you feeling resentful or mistrusting of people. This means that ending a relationship damages you and your potential to find someone else and facing the possibility of another rejection can chip away at your confidence and lead to bad decisions and diminishing confidence in your ability to attract a partner. Ask your closest friends if there was anything you could change to help yourself appeal to other people romantically. Making an effort with hair or a new wardrobe can help you transform yourself, which helps with the healing process and building of confidence.

Confidence is a key part of finding true love because unless you can see what you have to offer someone as a lover and friend and know what you are worth as a person, the other person will not see it either. Having a positive attitude to finding someone special and the possibility of love will give off and radiate and attract someone who is also ready for love. To help build this positivity, look in the mirror every day and tell yourself something you like about yourself. This will help you see yourself through other people's eyes. Taking any anxiety and frustration into dating or finding someone new will inevitably attract people who feed on weak and insecure people.

So if you are feeling that the rejection of a lover has left you feeling low then practice flirting in safe environments like over the internet or with friends just to remind yourself that you are attractive to people and have lots to offer the right person. Don't go on dates until you really feel that you have regained your self esteem a little because finding the right person is also a matter of timing and knowing your ready for something a little more serious only happens when you have let go of all the previous pains of rejection.

Susan is a dating counsellor who helps couples and singles in the online dating world. Susan works for Lovestruck who let you search for singles who live nearby. If you live in the UK and are a professional then why not try signing up for a dating agency in London and taking part in online dating.
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