Found The Perfect Partner But They're already in a relationship.
Posted: Tuesday, October 06, 2009
by Susan Lancaster
Lovestruck
This is a very common scenario in the dating world and everyone has been there slowly falling for t
Yes it's all very dramatic and should be on a soap opera, let's just get grounded right now shall we, this person you're about to start obsessing over and may or may not start stalking eventually is NOT available. Now I repeat for clarity sake, that person is not available or an option in anyway shape or form.
Now to your intentions, do you want this person because they are unavailable? Think about it for just a moment. You have struck up an office based flirtatious friendship with someone you KNOW is not free to give you anything more than a friendly pat on the back or hug if you're crying over a dead pet or something. What's in it for you? A day dream, a fantasy, lots of gossip and maybe an embarrassing office party when you confess your undying love and hope their spouse doesn't get too mad!
So if you do still believe that more than the above is in your future with this person then here's what you should do. Make yourself unavailable to them, not find yourself a fake partner but just be honest. The next time you find yourself alone at the copier or getting lunch together then say I'm really attracted to you and I think you might like me too. But I can't be friends with you while I feel this way about you so can we just have some space. I know you didn't mean for this to happen and it's not your fault but I can't be friends with you without wanting more.
At this point you must AVOID the person without being impolite but just whenever you can keep your distance. If they feel nothing for you then you will not have embarrassed yourself too much and you won't be caught in the friend zone listening to their unhappy relationship drama's hoping they will look at you as next in line. If they actually have feeling for you that they are prepared to admit to then they will do so with time hopefully after finishing with their current partner, but if they are still in a relationship you must try not to start a romantic relationship with them. If they do that with you, they will more than likely do it to you!
Susan is a relationship expert who advises couples and singles in the dating world. Susan works for a company, who let you search for singles who live in your city. If you live in the UK then why not try online dating london and meet professionals, for a date at lunchtime or after work! For more information please visit Lovestruck London
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