Are You In Control of Your Relationship? Find Out and Take Charge!

Posted: Monday, February 08, 2010

by Susan Lancaster
Lovestruck

Being in control of your relationship does not mean only you are controlling your relationship.

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Every relationship needs a certain amount of control, but it has to be a two way street. The need to please others leads to doing many things different. It is human nature to want things done a certain way.

The willingness to compromise plays a major role in keeping a relationship under control.

This can be a good thing as long as it does not go too far. Letting someone know early into the relationship what is and is not in the realm of things can save a lot of trouble down the road. Doing things that others want may lead to some pleasant surprises.

This does not mean relationships should be entered by sitting down with a do and don't do list. Most people know right up front if they are going to have at least a few things in common.

Once in a relationship there is the tendency to just go with the flow. The Saturday night date becomes something taken for granted by both parties, and if one makes other plans an argument can ensue.

Always letting one party do all the choosing can lead to misunderstandings and feelings of being controlled. A mutual decision can be made without realising it once a relationship is under control.

Communication is extremely important. Things do come up, but changes in the routine should be discussed as early as possible. This is not asking permission, it is just practicing common courtesy.

By controlling yourself you can control your relationship. Knowing what the other person wants and enjoying doing those things, make for a good relationship.

If eating in a certain restaurant has become an unpleasant habit don't mention it while eating there or right after leaving. Wait until a time when the conversation won't interrupt the flow of things. Many times both sides of a relationship feel the same way.

It is a lot easier to control yourself than to try to control others. When this becomes second nature other people will become easier to get along with. The results may lead to doing things that make both parties in the relationship more comfortable.

Expressing opinions may be fine in some circumstances, but in a relationship less can be better. Political views can be accepted, but criticism of someone's close friend is seldom met with enthusiasm.

When it comes to clothing, unless an outfit is totally inappropriate, it is best to refrain from negative opinions. If asked about the outfit tact is always the best route to follow.

Being in control of a relationship should become second nature. If feeling uncomfortable and having to constantly compromise a long talk at the right time can solve a lot of problems and put things back on track. This kind of discussion should not cause uneasiness and is usually a welcome chance to discuss differences. In a good relationship both persons are in control. In a great relationship neither one will notice.

Susan is a dating counsellor who guides couples and singles in the online dating world. Susan works for Lovestruck who are a dating website that offer dating services London. With Lovestruck you search and meet singles who live nearby. If you live in the UK then why not try and meet professionals, for a date at lunchtime or after work and think Lovestruck when you search - dating agencies london

Susan is a relationship expert and gives a lot of help, advice and guidance online for married, singles and people who are in the midst of dating on a whole range of relationship topics. Susan has recently worked with Lovestruck.com, who are a specialist online dating website and investigated into etiquette for online dating in New York and will be publishing online dating profile rules and tips as well as what to and what not to say when meeting someone in an online environment and then a first time meeting in person. Susan enjoys spending time with her family and taking trips to the cinema to see her favourite romantic movies.

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